Hello World: Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me! Yeah Right!

You have heard the saying : Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me!I remember saying that growing up to try avoid getting my feelings hurt but the truth is those words did hurt. I would go home and Cry when kids would make fun of the way I looked. I got called a boy in a dress when I was in in 4th Grade and had a short hair cut. Also, In school I would get called "Orka the Whale". I also grew up with people making fun of the way I talk because I couldnt say my ch's or my th's. I still think the worse thing that was said to me is " I cant believe you graduated from high school I never thought you would. in fact I thought you I were to stupid" OUCH!

Well, I really did show that person not only did I graduate from high school I graduated from College too. Of course, I didnt do it because of what they said but because I loved learning and I wanted to make something of myself. The Apology I got from that person was great though because I finally one day had a chance to tell them. So that I could work on forgiving them; I needed to get that off my chest. I was not expecting an apology I was planning on forgiving them without one but im glad I got one. The apology was something like this : "I am so sorry for not believing in you and being more supportive I should have never said that" . We got to remember that when we downgrade or criticize someone we are not helping them. We are torturing them! Words stick like glue and for some its easier to remember the bad than the good. In my case, that has been true a lot I do always try my best to remember the good more than the bad though.

" The words we say have the ability to tear down or build up. We tear down when we choose to have a critical spirit,use put downs or gossip. We build up when we choose to encourage,honor, and look for the best in others" --Jane Carr Pg84 Book “Beauty is Soul Deep”

Definitions of Terms according to thesauraus.com

Gossip: Definition: talk about others; rumor Synonyms: account, babble, back-fence talk, blather, blether, buzz*, calumny, chatter, chitchat, chronicle, clothesline, conversation, cry, defamation, dirty laundry, dirty linen, dirty wash, earful, grapevine, hearsay, idle talk, injury, malicious talk, meddling, news, prate, prattle, report, scandal, scuttlebutt, slander, small talk, story, tale, talk, whispering campaign, wire Antonyms: fact

Venting: Definition: let out; express Synonyms: air, assert, come out with, declare, discharge, drive out, emit, empty, give, give off, give out, issue, loose, pour out, provide escape, put, release, state, take out on, throw off, unleash, utter, ventilate, verbalize, voice

Confide: Definition: divulge information Synonyms: admit, bend an ear, breathe, buzz*, confess, crack to, disclose, hint, impart, insinuate, intimate, lay it on, lay the gaff, let in on, reveal, spill to, suggest, tell, unload on, whisper Antonyms: conceal, hide, secrete, suppress

I gossip some and I vent other Times and I definitely confide way too much . The only time I have learned that it is okay to talk about something or someone is when its (A.) Positive or (B) your looking for a solution. Which a lot of time I am but sometimes I talk bad about someone and realize afterwards then feel guilty about it. last night as I read my devotions before bed ;Both of the devotions were talking about gossip in some way. One was called “Sticks and Stones” and the other was called “Say it with love”. The common verse that was a part of both was:

Ephesians 4:29

New Century Version (NCV)

²⁹ When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you.

Im definitely going to work on being more positive about people and look for more good in them and Im going to work on muting my mouth before unwholesome talk comes out of it. Its okay for me to go and look for solutions but when im just being negative to be negative it doesn’t do any good plus words do hurt. Also, when I truly think about it I don’t want to hurt anyones feelings.

“ If theres something you need to say to your loved one,remember to say it lovingly,as if holding his heart in your hands” – Ellen Sue Stern